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“The way we unconsciously receive a message, isn’t necessarily the way we send a message”. Ants

No matter how clever or intelligent we become, our initial mammalian, reptilian, limbic, basal brain, (however you care to describe it) still has tremendous influence and impact on the way we sense our environment, the things in it, and how we act and respond. Somewhere between the pre-historic and modern versions of humankind we submerged our innate senses.

As we transcended, but progressively stopped consciously including our initial survival drivers and sensors, we evolved our modern ability to intellectualise both our environment, and the consequent cultures we created.

So; I would offer that although there’s been tremendous gains in our evolution as species along the way, as we have advanced technologically since the industrial revolution, through to today’s micro… even nano-chip driven way of being, we have lost touch with two of our core human tools of communication… the gut and the heart.

The ‘gut’ being our moral compass/ethos or ‘innate sense of right and wrong’ and our ‘heart’ being the generative vessel of emotions/pathos that we feel generated by our ‘gut intellect’, figuratively speaking…

I say figuratively because…

You may or may not know that the billions of neurons we have in our brains, which help to make us so ‘brilliant’ as a species, also to a lesser but not insignificant amount, exist in both our heart and guts. However; as we’ve evolved, I would offer that many have appeared to stop listening to them as much, in preference to the ones in our heads… the ones we have progressively tended to trust more and more. The neurones that helped certain individuals create… ‘social media’ for instance (an irony that hasn’t slipped my attention whilst writing this blog)

These days; other than in certain stressful circumstances when we don’t, we tend to think a thought and then speak it. That’s how we tend to communicate on a day-to-day basis. We think… we speak… pretty obvious right?

Obviously there are times when we give our message a little, or a lot more ‘thought’; when we apply a little or a lot more ‘intellect’ in order to try and make our message more clear, our argument more cogent, our impact more… impactful. However; my ‘thought’, based on years of trying to help people miscommunicate less, is that of course intellect plays a massive and crucial part in and of the communication cycle between us humans, both 1-2-1 and 1-2- many; but so do the two other dynamics that many have buried within themselves the more ‘clever’ we’ve become… the heart and the gut.

3000 or so years ago Aristotle, (a clever guy) worked out that in order to influence, or persuade others, you had to aim your message at three soft targets, the head (Logos), the heart (Ethos) and the gut (Pathos)… these are my interpretations of his theory of rhetoric. However; in my humble opinion he left one target out… the physical. I don’t know, or care to know, the ancient Greek work for body, but let’s call it (Physios) for the sake of continuity and ending the word in “os”.

Most people in the corporate world in which I have chosen to work , have heard of body-language, folded arms, crossed legs, eye contact, voice tone, gestures – blah, blah, blah… most intellectually ‘know’ about it… most don’t apply what they know because… well; because of the billion or more reasons that exist in our neuron-rich clever heads that created the journey from smoke signals, to pigeon-post, to wired telegrams and telephones, to radio, television, mobile phones, computers and video, conference calling, emails, texting, ‘instathis’ and ‘superfastthat’… and it’s all brilliant stuff; but…it’s clouded our instinctual selves and relegated those parts to the minor leagues… in many, but not all cases.

With all the forward motion, from taming horses to ride, to inventing the wheel, to light speed and neutrinos, the evolution and the acceleration and growth of our global village and its 24-hour availability, we’ve progressively forgotten that we’re still just extremely clever apes, with a brain stem that’s influenced or responses and actions since we were knee-high to a hydra in the oceans. The fact is that our consciousness is out-running our physical being….or to put it another way, our hardware is 1.0 our emerging software, in some cases, is approaching 5.0, so while all that growth is happening we seem to be leaving very important parts of what we are behind.

Here, finally is my point… it’s where we began…

“The way we unconsciously receive a message, isn’t necessarily the way we send a message”. We send our intellectual content from the brain via our mouths. It’s launched, mostly unconscious from the physical and emotional launch pad, as words, the other person or persons hear them, and responds… or not…

I would offer that’s usually the sender’s perception, if they have one, of what communication is… unless of course you’re a ‘black-belt communicator’.

Here’s what a Black-Belt communicator  understands…

They understand how another human or humans receive communication; and it’s in this order… physically, emotionally, intellectually. Once all that’s all happening and the receiver/s is/are consciously taking all that information on board every few seconds or so, they either consciously or unconsciously attempt to figure out the intention of the sender. ‘What is it that’s driving the messenger’ What’s the ‘why’ of them? Intention works both ways, but I’ll save that insight for another time.

Receivers, including you and me when we’re receiving, are constantly monitoring for the why first, the how second and the what last… in that order, and then the search/receive pattern happens in this order: –

Physically • Emotionally, and then • Intellectually.

If you’re conscious of that receiving pattern, then you will be one of a very small percentage of humans on the planet who do.

It means you’ll in a better position to be clear, cogent and impactful. You’ll be half-way to consciously creating the impact you choose and keeping others awake, engaged and informed… in that order!

The second half of the equation resides in the the intentional self… more on that to follow.

Cheers Ants

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Send V Receive

 

Here’s an idea to ponder, reduce stress and maybe make life a little easier for you, me and them…

 

“The way we unconsciously receive a message, isn’t necessarily the way we send a message”.

 

Ants

 

No matter how clever or intelligent we become, our initial mammalian, reptilian, limbic, basal brain, (however you care to describe it) still has tremendous influence and impact on the way we sense our environment, the things in it, and how we act and respond.

 

Somewhere between the pre-historic and modern versions of humankind we submerged our innate senses. As we transcended, but progressively stopped consciously including our initial survival drivers and sensors, we evolved our modern ability to intellectualise both our environment, and the consequent cultures we created.

 

So; I would offer that although there’s been tremendous gains in our evolution as species along the way, as we have advanced technologically since the industrial revolution, through to today’s micro… even nano-chip driven way of being, we have lost touch with two of our core human tools of communication… the gut and the heart. The ‘gut’ being our moral compass/ethos or ‘innate sense of right and wrong’ and our ‘heart’ being the generative vessel of emotions/pathos that we feel generated by our ‘gut intellect’, figuratively speaking… I say figuratively because…

 

You may or may not know that the billions of neurons we have in our brains, that make us so ‘brilliant’ as a species also, to a lesser but not insignificant amount, exist in both our heart and guts.

 

However; as we’ve evolved, I would offer that many have appeared to stop listening to them as much, in preference to the ones in our heads… the ones we have progressively tended to trust more and more. The neurones that helped certain individuals create… ‘social media’ for instance.

 

These days; other than in certain circumstances when we don’t, we tend to think a thought and then speak it. That’s how we tend to communicate on a day-to-day basis. We think… we speak… pretty obvious right?

 

Obviously there are times when we give our message a little, or a lot more ‘thought’; when we apply a little or a lot more ‘intellect’ in order to try and make our message more clear, our argument more cogent, our impact more… impactful.

 

However; my ‘thought’, based on years of trying to help people miscommunicate less, is that of course intellect plays a massive and crucial part in and of the communication cycle between us humans, both 1-2-1 and 1-2- many, but so do the two other dynamics that many have buried within themselves the more ‘clever’ we’ve become… the heart and the gut.

 

3000 years ago Aristotle, (a clever guy) worked out that in order to influence, or persuade others, you had to aim your message at three soft targets, the head (Logos), the heart (Ethos) and the gut (Pathos)… these are my interpretations of his theory of rhetoric. However; in my humble opinion he left one target out. I don’t know the ancient Greek work for body, but let’s call it (Physos) for the sake of continuity and ending the word in “os”.

 

Most people in the corporate world in which I have chosen to work till now, have heard of body-language, folded arms, crossed legs, eye contact, voice tone, gestures – blah, blah, blah… most intellectually ‘know’ about it… most don’t apply what they know because… well; because for a billion or more reasons that exist in our neuron-rich clever heads that created the journey fro smoke signals, pigeon post wired telegrams and telephones, to radio, television, mobile phones, computers, video calling, conference calling, emails, texting, instathis and superfastthat… and it’s all brilliant stuff;

 

but…

 

With all the forward motion, from taming horses to ride, to inventing the wheel, to light speed and neutrinos, the evolution and the acceleration and growth of our global village and its 24-hour availability, we’ve progressively forgotten that we’re still just extremely clever apes, with a brain stem that’s influenced or responses and actions since we were knee-high to a hydra in the oceans.

 

Here, finally is my point… it’s where we began…

 

“The way we unconsciously receive a message, isn’t necessarily the way we send a message”.

 

We send our intellectual content from the brain via our mouths. It comes out, mostly in an unconscious way as words, the other person or persons hear them, and responds… or not… that usually the sender’s perception, if they have one, of what communication is… unless of course you’re a ‘black-belt communicator’.

 

Here’s what they understand… they understand how another human or humans receive communication; and it’s in this order… physically, emotionally, intellectually.

Once all that’s all happening and the receiver/s is/are consciously taking all that information on board every few seconds or so, they either consciously or unconsciously attempt to figure out the intention of the sender. ‘What is it that’s driving the messenger’

What’s the ‘why’ of them? Receivers, including you and me when we’re receiving, are constantly monitoring for the why first, the how second and the what last… in that order, and the search pattern they / we / I / you use happens in this order: –

  • Physically
  • Emotionally, and then

 

If you and consciously understand and appreciate that receiving pattern, then you will be one of a very small percentage of humans on the planet. You’ll in a better position to be clear, cogent and impactful. You’ll be consciously creating the impact you choose and keeping others awake, engaged and informed… in that order!

 

If you need any help in doing all of that. You know where to come.

 

Cheers

 

Ants

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sender

 

  • Spirit – What conscious effect do you ‘intend’ to create?
  • Mind – What’s your conscious thinking style? (Fact/Meaning/Organiser/ Impro)
  • Heart – How do you feel, and make others consciously feel?
  • Body – How do you consciously physicalise your message? EG Gestures, Facial Expression, Proxemics, Voice Dynamics…Speed – Rhythm – Pitch – Volume – and TONE (which projects an, not necessarily the, ‘intention’ of your creation – conscious or otherwise)

 

Cycles back to spirit/intention… and around it goes!